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April 2018

033: Nancy Houston

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I am so excited to have Nancy Houston with me today on Thriving Beyond Belief! We talk about a topic that is necessary in our culture today and one that is good for our hearts. We discuss intimacy within marriage!

Nancy shares her story with us and how she has gotten to where she is today. Nancy’s book Love and Sex was released in February, which is the Christian guide to healthy intimacy. She wrote the book for those 18 and older to try and help others find their pathway to healthy intimacy. She is also a certified sex therapist who devotes her time to helping couples restore their relationships, seek healing and help, and to fully enjoy marriage the way God intended it to be.

Nancy had some beautiful things to say regarding her past and dealing with abuse. She reminds us that in Scripture, God shares that He is not ashamed of us or what has happened to us, but He wants to meet us and reconstruct from the ruins of our past. She also shares that we must recognize the need for healing. She discusses coming from a place to self-hatred to seeking outside help that helped reinforce that her past was not her fault and that your past is not your fault. We see that through His Word, the Lord wants to meet us in the midst of our hurt and be our great Healer.

Nancy’s definition of thriving is facing our negative realities and walk through them to experience the LIFE on the other side. We have to leave our Egypt to reach our promised land. It doesn’t mean it is an easy journey, but it is a worthy one. Our God wants us to thrive in this way in all areas of our life- including our sex life with our spouse!

Nancy reminds us that God specifically designed us with a purpose. He is not ashamed of sexuality because He designed us to be sexual beings that gain attachment and closeness within the bond of marriage through intimacy. He desires that your intimate life is enjoyable and strengthens the marriage! We as a Christian culture need to remember to connect our spirituality with our sexuality. Often we don’t believe they are connected. But, in fact, they are stronger when they are connected.

We discuss at length those that are currently dealing with a disconnect in their marriage. Nancy discusses the scientific reasoning behind our need for attachment within marriage, what leads to breaks in the attachment, and how we can work through better communication to repair the disconnect. She encourages couples to learn to tell your spouse what you need instead of keeping score against them. Rather than blame your spouse, ask for what you feel you are lacking. She also encourages those that have tried everything and their spouse is unwilling to change to keep seeking help. Continue to pray over your marriage and tap into resources to find that intimacy again.

We end with talking about how sex in marriage was not created to be an obligation to either party, but to be a beautiful and pleasurable experience. Nancy talks through Scripture that beautifully portrays what intimacy in marriage looks like for both people, male and female.

Join me today as we gain wisdom in being healthy in every way in our marriages.

 

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032: Paige Greene

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Please welcome Paige Greene to the Thriving Beyond Belief podcast today! I had the pleasure of meeting Paige through our pastor, Matt Chandler, a couple of years ago after she wrote an incredible article titled I Regret my Divorce”. Paige gets vulnerable and real with us about divorce on the podcast today. She discusses what can come from unbiblical divorce in a refreshing way that we in the Christian community truly need to hear.

Paige currently works for Lifeway, as she helps with their events and is able to minister to women all over the country. She is also pursuing her Master’s degree in counseling.

Paige defines thriving as walking with the Lord every day and laying down all that distracts in that time. (She is an extrovert and a communicator, so the phone has to stay away in that time- I can so relate to that!) She believes it is abiding in the Lord in the present. For so long, she focused on what her future would look like instead of being thankful for today (how many of us can relate to that?), and now sees that joy comes from gratitude to the Lord for the day we have been given.

Paige feels a burden to share her story, especially with young marriages, in this culture today. She discusses how divorce did not solve the problems she thought it would, and even prays that one day she will be able to be reconciled with her ex-husband. She gives Biblical wisdom to the weight divorce truly brings.

Remember that the enemy is out to steal, kill, and destroy. He wants our culture to believe that the minute you are unhappy in your marriage, divorce is the only solution that can bring freedom. Paige shares that once the papers have been signed, the promise of “freedom” doesn’t hold up to what you thought it would be. She emphasizes so wonderfully that divorce is far more serious to God than our culture makes it seem.

Paige shares her heart in the most beautiful way about how to truly seek the Lord if you are thinking divorce is your only option. She discusses her own story and how when she came to the conclusion that divorce was the only avenue to bring freedom and happiness for her, that she was completely self-focused. She shares that we must “feed our spirit, not our flesh”. She encourages us to understand that God is a God of kept covenants. The thought of divorce doesn’t please Him because He knows the consequences of it; He knows what broken covenants lead to.

We discuss going to the Lord and asking Him how He feels about the possibility of divorce. If you seek His will and His word, you will not miss His answer to you. Remember that if you don’t feel a certain way, you must stand up in obedience. If you don’t feel that marriage should ever be difficult or sacrificial, you must let your obedience take over. Don’t let your feelings dictate how you treat your spouse or your marriage. Some days may be truly hard, but God will bless your commitment.

Paige ends with some amazing encouragement. For those that have gotten divorced, she reminds us that God hates divorce, but loves you. The two are not mutually exclusive. He will always take care of His children, and Paige saw it first hand when walking through her own divorce. BECAUSE He loves you, He hates divorce. She advises to read through Psalm 51 and wait for the Lord.

I am so thankful to know Paige, and I hope this talk today is eye-opening, encouraging, and makes you see the Lord in a new way.

Grab a cup of coffee and come join us today on Thriving Beyond Belief!

 

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Instagram – @paigegreene4

Twitter – @paigegreene and @LifeWayWomen

Facebook – Paige Clayton Greene

Websites – www.lifeway.com/women

 

031: Mike Foster

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I am so excited to have Mike Foster with us on the podcast today! I believe that it is important for this mainly woman-centric podcast to have some male perspective on life, marriage, and how to thrive. So let’s welcome his wonderful perspective today!

Mike is an author, speaker, and therapist. He has his own podcast, “Fun Therapy”, which dives into people’s stories, but with a smile. Each episode is somewhat of a therapy session with different individuals. Mike, along with his wife, Jennifer, published “Five Dates” this year. “Five Dates” is a workbook for couples to help work through connection in marriage. Mike also has a book, “People of the Second Chance”, which is a powerful book on his own life journey.

We begin the podcast diving into what Mike does and how what he does now was shaped by his story and the things that happened in his past. Because of his own personal struggles in inadequacy, shame, fear, and perfectionism, Mike now wants to walk with others through those feelings and help them work towards freedom. He talks about wanting to help people see God’s goodness in the midst of their storm.

Mike defines thriving as dwelling in being exactly who God has created us to be. Often we walk around trying to be a “version” of ourselves, which inevitably leads to failure and exhaustion. Instead, the Lord wants us to align our lives with the gifts, strengths, and visions He has created us to have. Mike also believes we cannot truly be thriving without being in true, vulnerable community with others. We are created to be in community.

Mike shares some wonderful perspective on the roles men play in life and marriage, and how the world can twist what God’s calling on men’s lives truly is supposed to be. He speaks on the prejudices our culture puts on men, the distorted picture of masculinity today in our western society, and says what “being a man” is versus what God’s word says men are. The core needs of men and women are the same, but the avenue to get to those core needs is different.

We even discuss on the podcast a healthy view of sex within the bonds of marriage and what true intimacy is. He discusses that this is an area of marriage that needs to be stewarded and that it is an issue that affects every area of marriage.

We end with how wives can help husbands in their roles as men in the relationship. We discuss how wives can be encouragers, affirmers, and a safe place for their husbands to come and tap into their feelings. Mike wisely shares that couples need to first work on togetherness before they can ever think about discussing the larger issues within their relationship.

You will not want to miss this podcast. Grab a cup of coffee and come join us today on Thriving Beyond Belief!

 

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Instagram@mikefoster2000

Twitter- @mikefoster

Facebookiammikefoster

Websites

www.mikefoster.tv,

http://www.secondchance.org/,

RescueAcademy.com

 

030: Kait Warman

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It is such a treat to have Kait Warman on Thriving Beyond Belief with me today!

Kait is a such a joy and exudes such positivity and light in all that she does. We discuss her story and how even having the “dream job” of being a senior buyer in New York for a high end company (her life truly was a scene from “Devil Wears Prada”!) did not bring what only Jesus can bring to our lives- true and ultimate fulfillment.

Kait now lives in beautiful Santa Monica, where she is a professional blogger, is starting a social media company that focuses on creative content, has a truth talk series on YouTube, and is about to begin a podcast solely focused on Christian Dating called The Heart of Dating and can be found on iTunes and stitcher at also www.heartofdating.com and @heartofdating on instagram!

The greatest thing about our time talking together is how openly we talk about all of the true and vulnerable issues that are difficult for women to discuss today. We talk about everything from what our identity should truly lie in, comparison to others, self-care, heartbreak, and even body positivity.

We take some time to expand on what it means to “thrive”. Kate believes that we are thriving when we are functioning wholly and fully in all areas- mind, body, and spirit. To be whole in those areas is to bring Jesus into the details of our lives! We learn to take care of ourselves in a way that is glorifying to the Lord and helpful to others. In order to love others as Christ loves us, we must be spending time with Him ourselves. It is important to remember that we must set aside time to do so.

Kait shares some of her past and trials that she has walked through, only to know Jesus in a sweeter way because of those times. She discusses shame in a very vulnerable way, and shares how we as women can combat the lies the enemy wants us to believe. Kait also talks about this season of singleness and how to be thankful for seasons that are truly in God’s will for us to experience.

Kait, venturing in to the social media world, gives some amazing insight on the pros and cons of social media. We should be using social media as a tool to connect, gain creative insight, and spur one another on. But all too easily it can become a dark place of comparison, body shaming, and a place where vulnerability is not welcome. But Kait shares that “we cannot compare others’ nuggets to the treasure the Lord has stored up for us”. We talk further about taking care of what has been entrusted to us, how we are to feel healthy more than “skinny”, and that we must set boundaries on places that can easily lead to us thinking we are not beautiful, when Christ tells us in His Word how much we are valued. We must never replace truth with the lies the world tells us.

Take a listen today to this amazingly real and genuine talk. I hope it blesses you!

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Facebook: Kaitness1

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Twitter: @kaitness

 

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